Working for Your Worth

By Staci Stallings

Worth.  What is it?

We ask, “Is it worth it?” and “What’s it worth to you?”

All of the definitions of worth speak of value–monetary or life value.

But where do we get our worth?  I think that is a central way Satan uses to get us off-track.  I also think if we were to really look at the question and not just live it blindly, it could help us find some peace rather than a mountain of stress.

Let’s look first at how the world says we get our worth.  There are many ways the world says you can be “worth it.”  You can have a well-paying job or a good family; a fine home or fancy cars.  You can be a leader in your community or you can contribute to society in some meaningful way.

All of those are fine in their place, but here’s the problem.

When you get your worth from your job, what happens when you lose the job or even could potentially lose it?  At that point the job becomes your worth.  No wonder losing a job can be so devastating.  Yes, you have the financial strain, but worse the job loss signals to you that your worth is suddenly zero.

How about if your worth is tied up in being married or in a relationship.  “I am worth it because I have someone who loves me.”  Okay.  What happens when they leave or die?

Many Christians try to derive their worth from their work in the church or in ministry.  Don’t get me wrong–ministry is important, but it does not and should not define if you are worth it or not.  When people begin to look to their ministry and church work to give them self-worth, oh, do they get into trouble quickly.

And I believe right there is where Satan snags the most well-intentioned Christians. In their heads and their hearts he twines the belief that “since I’m working in the church, I’m worth something.”

However, when you are working for your worth in any context, even the in the church, you’re in trouble.  Why?  Because seeking worth through your own work can become an addiction.  At first, it feels like it takes very little ministry to experience a worth-increase.  Then, as you go, it takes more and more to experience that same sense of “I’m worth it.”

Now, I love the church, but it is one place that will absolutely ask you to give more than any human ever can.  There are always positions to fill, jobs to do, needs to be met.  You can join the choir and the ladies organization; you can pray for missions and help at the bake sale; you can volunteer to help with the youth, teach Sunday School and run VBS; you can help plant the trees and do the fundraiser for the new foyer rug.  You can read in services, usher, and be in hospitality. You can be on the finance council and on the board.

There is literally no end to the ministries you can choose to be in, and therein lies the trap.  When you are working for your worth, and to get the “high” you initially experience from gaining your self-worth through you work, you have to do more and more and more; and there are so many good things in the church that you could be doing…. Oh, it’s easy to hit burn-out while simultaneously feeling like you are not doing enough.

It’s a paradox that snags too many Christians.

So what is the answer?

Stop working for your worth!

The truth is… the Good News is… your worth is not defined by anything on this earth.  Nothing you do or don’t do can add or subtract from your inherent worth.  Why?  Because your worth doesn’t come from you or anything outside you. It comes only from God, and the worth God imbues you with is perfect and whole just as it is.  And once you accept that, no additions or subtractions are necessary.

Does that mean we don’t work?  No.  It means we work from a spirit of who we are in God, not from a spirit of trying to become something if we do enough.

Stop working for your worth.  Understand that right now, just as you are–you are worth it because God says you are.

Once you accept that, your work will no longer feel like work. You can say yes when you want to say yes and no when you don’t, and not feel the crushing guilt of letting everyone else down and knowing that now they will think you are not worth it.

The truth is:  You are priceless, just as you are, because God made you and you are a Child of the King.

Period.  End of sentence… and beginning of a brand new life.

 

Staci Stallings, the author of this article, invites you to take a very personal journey out into the territory with her. Reflections on Life III: Posts from the Territory is a collection of short stories that show the trials and tribulations life can throw at someone as well as the hope that abides no matter how challenging life becomes.  “Your words touched my heart and gave me cause to believe that what I’m going through right now has a purpose.” –Greg Parker, online reader

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Reflections on Life III
~ Posts from the Territory~

Life. It sounds so easy.

But then you hit “the territory.”

Out in the territory–some call it the wilderness–you’re not on sure footing, you’re uncertain how to proceed and sometimes how to even survive. Maybe it’s a bout of unemployment or a divorce. Maybe it’s a loved one’s death or an illness.

The territory can be a frightening, overwhelming place.

In this candid, very personal collection of stories, Staci Stallings shares with her readers her own walks through in the territory. From the death of her brother through her son’s battle with dyslexia, Staci knows what it’s like to be in the disorienting sandstorms of life. Fortunately, she also knows that holding onto God and faith can see one through the “territories” of life that crop up no matter who you are or how much faith you have.

Find hope and healing, faith and peace in these pages. Let Staci share with you the lessons she has learned so you will come to realize that not only is there hope–even in what may appear to be hopeless situations, but that you are not alone in having “territory moments.” Most of all through these stories it will become clear that God truly is right there with you–even in the territory–every step of the way.

“Your words touched my heart and gave me cause to believe that what I’m going through right now has a purpose.”
Greg Parker, online reader

Pick up your ebook copy today on : Amazon  or BN Nook

 

 

 

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